‘Marinating in your stuck’ sounds icky.
It feels uncomfortable and unclean to me when I hear it. How about you?
We often marinate because feel we can’t get unstuck. We think the issue is too big / too hard / too much or we stay stuck because we can’t pinpoint what the issue actually is.
We wrap constraints around our ability to press play or move forward.
Like millions of others, I admire Seth Godin’s ability to say in just a few words what many of us are thinking.
In April, his blog on Other people’s problems set out why it’s easier to find solutions to others’ problems. In summary:
1. “ Because we're unaware of all the real and imaginary boundaries our friends have set up. If it were easy to solve the problem, they probably would have.
2. “Because resistance is real. Solving the problem means moving ahead, confronting new, even scarier problems. It might be easier to simply stay where we are, marinating in our stuck.”
You aren’t stupid or lacking because you can’t get unstuck. Resistance is real. That’s why coaching helps. It lends another perspective, helps you recognise what is holding you back and what the scary really is.
A coach isn’t there to solve your problems for you, but they are there to shine a light on them and help you recognise what the barriers are and work out how to remove them...or at least haul yourself up to and over them.
If you feel stuck, why not try tackling the problem with someone who knows how to help you, someone who can reach out the hand that will help you scramble up the barrier and stop you bashing your face against it.
Ready to stop marinating? Why not start by booking a free intro call to explore how a little Career Therapy can help you?
Click 'Book a call' anywhere on the website or email me – louise@careertherapy.co.uk to say hello.
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What’s stopping you?
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